Inviting a Monkey to Tea: Befriending Your Mind and Discovering Lasting Contentment by Nancy Colier (Author)


To “invite a monkey to tea” is to befriend our own mind-which is often compared to a drunken monkey for all its mad twists and turns. A wild monkey is full of irrepressible desires, and thus chases its own tail in its search for happiness!

This book is about learning to welcome the mind as ally without fear or resistance, thus relaxing that frantic search and resting in the joy of who we already are. As a psychotherapist, author Nancy Colier has accompanied hundreds of people in their “search for happiness” for nearly two decades. She has watched her clients try everything under the sun to be-and stay-happy. Witnessing and participating in this process, she has become an expert in happiness, or more specifically, in the monkey-mind’s search and demand for it, and the unhappiness that all the striving ultimately creates. Along the way, the author has come to understand the workings of the mind-both from her clients and by her own diligent practice of meditation and self-observation.

This book distills the wisdom and experience of her dedicated work, and offers readers a roadmap of the territory of mind, plus a toolbox of practical means for identifying and working gently with the unrealistic expectations that keep us from the enjoyment of who we are.

Inviting a Monkey to Tea explains how to:

* Identify addictive (and dead-end) approaches to happiness;
* Build a new relationship to self-caretaking,putting aside the tyranny of blame,fear,neglect and
perfectionism;
* Befriend the mind, with gentleness and compassion;
* Enter and stay rooted in the present moment;
* Live with genuine well being and lasting contentment

This book takes the wisdom of Eastern philosophy and presents it in a way that people can feel safe to approach, understand, and ultimately apply within their lives. The book is a handshake between self-help and dharma (spiritual teaching). The author walks the reader, step by step, through the process of spiritual change toward and into a new identity-free from dependency on the idea of happiness as savior. Reading this book will generate its own profound metamorphosis. Readers will be softened, as they learn of others like themselves who have moved into this domain of self-acceptance.

Nancy Colier is a brilliant guide who clearly marks this trail with her own presence, kindness and compassion. At this “tea party” the reader can relax, renew intention, self-examine, and choose a new road to lifelong contentment.


Nancy Colier is a psychotherapist, interfaith minister, author and public speaker. She also teaches classes in mindfulness, meditation and awareness practice. Nancy writes a regular blog for the Huffington Post and Psychology today, and is the author of Inviting a Monkey to Tea: Befriending Your Mind and Discovering Lasting Contentment, 2012 (Hohm Press) and also, Getting Out of Your Own Way: Unlocking Your True Performance Potential, 2001 (Luminous Press). A longtime student of Eastern spirituality, mindfulness and awareness are at the core of her work with clients. In addition, Nancy spent 25 years as a top-ranked equestrian on the national horse show circuit and serves as a performance consultant to competitive athletes and professional artists. Her new book on technology and mindfulness, Grounding the Monkey, will be released in February, 2016 by Beyond Words/Atria/Simon & Schuster. She lives in Manhattan with her husband and two daughters.

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Nancy Colier “Inviting a Monkey to Tea,” Book Launch

Nancy Colier presents her new book. Book Culture, NY, Inviting a Monkey to Tea: Befriending Your Mind and Discovering Lasting Contentment, Oct 2012.

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