Amma: Inspiring Experiences with the Divine Mother by Ted Zeff PH.D. (Author), Amma (Contributor), Dayalu (Contributor)

Amma (Sri Mata Amritanandamayi Devi) is known throughout the world for her love, compassion and selflessness toward all beings. Over 30 million people have experienced the magnificent healing effect of love that she showers on all through her maternal embrace. Amma has given keynote speeches at the United Nations and received a multitude of awards for her humanitarian activities from governments and distinguished organizations all over the world. Amma: Inspiring Experiences with the Divine Mother is a compilation of hundreds of awe-inspiring and miraculous stories of devotees being transformed through the power of Amma s divine love.”

Ted Zeff (Dayalu) on Amma – Buddha at the Gas Pump Interview


Published on Oct 30, 2016

Also see https://batgap.com/ted-zeff-dayalu-amma/

Ted Zeff (Dayalu) met Amma, the “hugging saint” from India, in 1988 and has lived in her ashram in California for 20 years and her ashram in Chicago for one year. Dayalu has written three books about Amma: “Searching for God Part I” in 1996, “Searching for God Part II” in 2002 and “Amma: Inspiring Experiences with the Divine Mother” in 2016. Dayalu has a Ph.D. in integral counseling and psychotherapy from the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco and has studied ayurveda and vedic astrology.

Ted Zeff Dayalu has also given talks about the books he has written about Amma throughout the United Sates, Israel, Denmark and Holland.

Amma’s website: http://amma.org

Book: Amma: Inspiring Experiences with the Divine Mother

Interview recorded 10/29/2016

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Characteristics of an Evolved Human Consciousness ~ By Christopher Chase

Do You Meet These 16 Markers of a Higher Consciousness?

See how you resonate with the 16 characteristics of this evolved level of human consciousness, as described by Ervin Laszlo…

1. I am part of the world. The world is not outside of me, and I am not outside of the world. The world is in me, and I am in the world.

2. I am part of nature, and nature is part of me. I am what I am in my communication and communion with all living things. I am an irreducible and coherent whole with the web of life on the planet.

3. I am part of society, and society is part of me. I am what I am in my communication and communion with my fellow humans. I am an irreducible and coherent whole with the community of humans on the planet.

4. I am more than a skin-and-bone material organism. My body, and its cells and organs, are manifestations of what is truly me: a self-sustaining, self-evolving dynamic system arising, persisting and evolving in interaction with everything around me.

I am part of nature, and nature is part of me.

I am part of nature, and nature is part of me.

5. I am [an] evolved manifestation of the drive toward coherence and wholeness in the universe. It is the same essence, the same spirit that is inherent in all the things that arise and evolve in nature, whether on this planet or elsewhere in the infinite reaches of space and time.

6. There are no absolute boundaries and divisions in this world, only transition points where one set of relations yields prevalence to another. In me, in this self-maintaining and self-evolving coherence – and wholeness-oriented system, the relations that integrate the cells and organs of my body are prevalent.

7. The separate identity I attach to other humans and other things is but a convenient convention that facilitates my interaction with them. My family and my community are just as much “me” as the organs of my body. My body and mind, my family and my community, are interacting and interpenetrating, variously prevalent elements in the network of relations that encompasses all things in nature and the human world.

8. There are no “others” in the world: We are all living systems and we are all part of each other. The whole gamut of concepts and ideas that separates my identity, or the identity of any person or community, from the identity of other persons and communities are manifestations of this convenient but arbitrary convention.

My family and my community are just as much “me” as the organs of my body.

My family and my community are just as much “me” as the organs of my body.

9. Attempting to maintain the system I know as “me” through ruthless competition with the system I know as “you” is a grave mistake. It could damage the integrity of the embracing whole that frames both your life and mine. I cannot preserve my own life and wholeness by damaging that whole, even if damaging a part of it seems to bring me a short-term advantage. When I harm you, or anyone else around me, I harm myself.

10. Collaboration, not competition, is the royal road to the wholeness that hallmarks healthy systems in the world. Collaboration calls for empathy and solidarity, and ultimately for love. We are part of the same whole and so are part of each other.

11. The idea of “self-defense,” even of “national defense,” needs to be rethought. Patriotism if it aims to eliminate adversaries by force, and heroism even in the well-meaning execution of that aim, are mistaken aspirations. Comprehension, conciliation, and forgiveness are not signs of weakness; they are signs of courage.

12. “The good” for me and for every person in the world is not the possession and accumulation of personal wealth. Wealth, in money or in any material resource, is but a means for maintaining myself in my environment. Exclusive wealth is a threat to all people in the human community.

13. Beyond the sacred whole we recognize as the world in its totality, only life and its development have what philosophers call intrinsic value. All other things have merely instrumental value: value insofar as they add to or enhance intrinsic value. Material things in the world, and the energies and substances they harbor or generate, have value only if and insofar they contribute to life and well-being in the web of life on this Earth.

Collaboration, not competition.

Collaboration, not competition.

14. The true measure of my accomplishment and excellence is my readiness to give. Not the amount of what I give is the measure of my accomplishment and excellence, but the relation between what I give, and what my family and I need to live and to thrive.

15. Every healthy person has pleasure in giving: It is a higher pleasure than having. I am healthy and whole when I value giving over having. Sharing enhances the community of life, while possessing and accumulating creates demarcation, invites competition, and fuels envy. The share-society is the norm for all the communities of life on the planet; the have-society is typical only of modern-day humanity, and it is an aberration.

16. I recognize the aberration of modern-day humanity from the universal norm of coherence in the world, acknowledge my role in having perpetrated it. I pledge my commitment to restoring wholeness and coherence by becoming whole myself: whole in my thinking and acting — in my consciousness.

If you had an “aha experience” while reading even just one of these ideas, you have the foundations of Akashic [Unity] consciousness. And if you had this experience all the way through, you already possess this crucial consciousness.

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Source: Uplift Connect

Adyashanti – Why We Struggle


Published on Oct 30, 2016

Adyashanti – Why We Struggle
Satsang Talk From: Santa Monica CA, 4/10/1999

There Is Not Nothing; There Is Experience ~ Rupert Spira


Published on Oct 28, 2016

A discussion inquiring into the concept of emptiness in Buddhism in contrast with the concept of Self in the direct path.

Adyashanti – Perceiving Your Personal Philosophy


Published on Oct 27, 2016

http://adyashanti.org – Adyashanti speaks to the philosophy that you bring to your everyday life. What thoughts, beliefs, and opinions are you referencing from your past that are—consciously or unconsciously—informing your present experience? How are you interacting with life? Your own personal philosophy is a lens that you view life through, and it interprets and colors all of your experiences, creating your life. Adyashanti offers up the question: What philosophy am I entertaining at this moment right now? These are the profound inquiries and issues that Adyashanti will address in his study course, “The Philosophy of Enlightenment.”

Video Excerpted From: “The Philosophy of Enlightenment” Study Course – Exercise 1.

Quotes from this video:

“Just begin to examine this whole sense that every moment of relationship, we’re actually unconsciously bringing our philosophy of life into that moment.”

“You start to see that your philosophy of life, if it’s not in alignment with the unfolding of life, will cause conflict.”

“Take these little moments throughout the day, and drop this question into your mind: What philosophy am I living by right now? What set of opinions and beliefs am I living by? What set of past experiences am I viewing the current moment through?”

“Our own personal philosophy—about our self, others, and life—these aren’t just abstract ideas that float around in our mind. They’re actually ideas that we perceive through; they dictate the way that we experience life.”

U S ELECTIONS 2016: Ball of confusion versus the alternatives ~ Drs. Moschetta


Published on Oct 25, 2016

NonDuality weekly meeting led by Drs. Moschetta at their home in East Hampton, NY.

The Buddha of Love

Excerpted from Embracing Each Moment by Anam Thubten

The Buddha Maitreya is considered the buddha of the future. His name, Buddha Maitreya, translates as the “Buddha of love.” To me, Buddha Maitreya is an archetype, a sacred allegory representing something profound and innate in each of us, our innate love. Love is innate to all of us, and we can regard love and compassion as our basic instincts. Our basic instincts are not all dark and impure. Love is our most basic human instinct, along with intelligence, compassion, and courage. There is love in all of us. There is even universal love, all-embracing love, in all of us. This is part of who we are. There are many forms of love. Love comes in a variety of flavors and textures. We experience love for family members, love for friends, love for animals, and love for the world of nature. Love is this authentic feeling that transcends judgment, hatred, and envy. It embraces one person or a group of people in our hearts with trust and kindness. This unconditional acceptance and affinity is what love is.

We feel love for many people in our lifetime, and it is quite easy to love the world of nature—the beautiful forest, the majestic mountains. Our hearts open when we are standing before sunsets or mountains or great rivers. We all love nature easily. We don’t have to meditate for a long time or go through psychoanalysis to love nature. At a very early age, we humans start demonstrating our intrinsic love toward the world of nature as well as toward the animal kingdom. We love animals most of the time. It is easy to love our pets, and of course, they love us unconditionally. They often show their unconditional love and their loyalty toward us. Not only that, they are extremely charming most of the time. Some animals are much easier to love. Those little dogs you see now and then are so sweet and adorable!

However, our love toward humanity is very complicated. When we love a human being, that love can be quite heroic. Perhaps it is much more heroic or profound than our love of nature or anything else. When we really love somebody, we are able to sacrifice ourselves.

We have this selfless, big heart, through which we can have the willingness to carry the other person’s suffering and pain. And we can have unquestioning determination to share our happiness, our glory, and our richness with that person. It is said that this kind of love toward all living beings was felt by Buddha himself all the time. Many great, awakened masters felt this love too.

At the same time, it is very difficult to love humanity. When you walk on the street or drive on the highway, try to look around. Make sure you look around and recognize all the human beings.

Can you love them? Can you find sacredness, holiness, or some kind of charming quality in them? You know that sometimes it is very difficult to open your heart and find the beauty and holiness in human beings that you can find quite easily in nature or even animals. That is why many people have a much easier time loving animals than loving human beings. Sometimes it is very difficult to accept human beings with their complex personalities. Yet this is the only way we can evolve. Sooner or later, we must learn how to love all humanity. We must learn how to recognize the charm, the sweetness, and the adorable qualities in humanity without any exclusions. Perhaps we may think that such love is impossible, but the truth is that this love is very possible. Having this love in your heart is the only way you can evolve. It is the only way you can find healing, transformation, and true happiness. So Buddha Maitreya, the future buddha, is only an archetype. We all are future buddhas. We all are the Buddha Maitreya. The Buddha Maitreya symbolizes this all-embracing love.

One time, the Buddhist master Asanga was meditating in the forest. He was hoping that soon he would see a divine vision of Buddha Maitreya. He meditated for twelve years without any sign of achievement. After meditating for twelve years in the forest and hoping to see the divine vision of Buddha Maitreya, he was quite disappointed. He decided to quit his quest. On the way home, he ran into a wounded dog lying on the street. This poor dog’s entire body was covered with maggots. He felt genuine love and compassion toward this wounded dog. He wanted to help it and remove all the maggots eating its body. First he tried to remove the insects with his hands, but then he also felt love and compassion toward those embracing each moment insects. He was afraid of killing them with his hands. He decided to remove them with his tongue. The sight was so grotesque he could not touch the maggots with his tongue while his eyes were open.

He closed his eyes and stuck out his tongue. Suddenly there was no more wounded dog. He had a vision of Buddha Maitreya. Of course,this is a very famous story that you don’t have to take literally. It can be a metaphorical story. You are Buddha Maitreya, and you are the future buddha. There is an all-embracing love inside you. You are born with it. This is your basic instinct. You just have to find a way to rekindle it.

Again, there are many forms of love. There is spiritual or divine love. This is love without any object, which is a very powerful love. There are many beautiful and powerful practices than can help us to evoke this spiritual, objectless love. Most of the time, our love has an object. True spiritual love, divine love, has no object. This is why the Hindus often practice bhakti yoga, which is the yoga of divine love. You can feel this spiritual love, love toward Avalokiteshvara, love toward Guanyin. Guanyin is not an object. Avalokiteshvara is not an object. The truth is that you will never find Avalokiteshvara from outside. As a Mahayana and Tantric Buddhist, I have practiced many sadhanas, Buddhist versions of bhakti yoga. For a long time, I practiced the Avalokiteshvara sadhana. I felt this profound, almost transcendent level of love toward Avalokiteshvara. For a long time, I wanted to see Avalokiteshvara. Of course, in the end I could not find Avalokiteshvara because Avalokiteshvara is not an object.

When you can’t find Avalokiteshvara and still love Avalokiteshvara, that is true spiritual love that is transcendent love.

Source: Spirituality Health

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The Most Overlooked Secret About Spirituality: by Deepak Chopra M.D

Without really thinking it through, most people separate the practical side of their lives from their spiritual beliefs. This separation is actually not valid. No matter what kind of experience you are having, that experience occurs in awareness. Therefore, spirituality needs to be clarified in terms of consciousness, which is real and practical, instead of religious beliefs. Beliefs can be very important to someone and have a deep personal meaning. But the source of every spiritual experience is consciousness.

The first thing to say is that consciousness is active at every level of life, not just in our everyday thoughts and sensations. What are you conscious of right this minute? To find an answer you can look at the world “out there” and describe what you see and hear, or you can refer to the world “in here” and describe what you are feeling and thinking about. Yet this separation, which seems so obvious, isn’t really crucial. Being aware of a tree is much the same as being aware of an image of a tree in your mind’s eye. The sight of a grocery store may remind you that you need eggs–the two worlds of “out there” and “in here” are intimately connected and function as two sides of the same coin.

But there is another kind of awareness one might call “second attention.” While all the things you notice fall into the area of first attention, second attention is different and unique. It is your awareness of being aware. We all have this. When you wake up in the morning the first thing you are aware of is being awake, not whatever is in your bedroom or the thoughts that start running through your head.

Second attention sounds abstract, but it indicates something important that applies to you personally: Consciousness is multi-dimensional. This isn’t an incidental observation but a key one in the world’s wisdom traditions. If consciousness is multi-dimensional, the way you easily switch from first to second attention opens the door to a completely new reality.

This reality is marked by the following critical phenomena:

1. Your two levels of attention are constantly at work. While the first level deals with events in the everyday world, the second level governs and controls how your personal reality unfolds; it contains the control switch that pulls your attention wherever it goes, and what you pay attention to is all-important. How much focus you place on these two levels makes an immense difference in how your life turns out.

2. You can absent yourself from pain and suffering by transcending or going beyond your immediate circumstances. This ability leads directly into the deep meditative states extolled in every spiritual tradition.

3. You can experience two states of mind simultaneously, encompassing both the active mind with its thoughts, images, feelings, and sensations and the silent mind from which all activity springs.

4. You can explore the numinous or divine nature of the mind, where silence turns into “light,” a symbol for the ultimate source of all things, including the physical universe. This is the goal of the Old Testament injunction, “Be still and know that I am God.” Stripped of religious overtones, such an experience brings you to the ground state of your own being.

5. Through empathy, you can feel how another person is feeling, and if carried far enough, this natural ability turns into compassion. Through compassion the individual exchanges his or her allegiance to the isolated ego and becomes aligned instead with a deeper core of humanity.

It needs repeating that all of these are natural states of awareness that anyone can experience once they are pointed out. There is nothing mystical about first and second attention. Of what use is this information and the experiences that follow? Each person must decide individually, but in general, the value of being multi-dimensional is summarized by a New Testament promise: Knock and the door will be opened to you. This refers to doors of higher awareness, leading to greater creativity, intelligence, and love. A person also coordinates daily life better from a deeper level of awareness. Ultimately, the goal is to be so aware that all dimensions are in sync — in separation the mind gets out of joint with its true source, which is why worldly success isn’t the same as peace of mind or self-knowledge.

In short, a lot depends on whether you have realized that you are multi-dimensional and not simply a creature of linear time unfolding on a single track. This is a secret that is capable of transforming your life.

Deepak Chopra MD, FACP, founder of The Chopra Foundation and co-founder of The Chopra Center for Wellbeing, is a world-renowned pioneer in integrative medicine and personal transformation, and is Board Certified in Internal Medicine, Endocrinology and Metabolism. He is a Fellow of the American College of Physicians and a member of the American Association of Clinical Endocrinologists. The World Post and The Huffington Post global internet survey ranked Chopra #17 influential thinker in the world and #1 in Medicine. Chopra is the author of more than 80 books translated into over 43 languages, including numerous New York Times bestsellers. His latest books are Super Genes co-authored with Rudolph Tanzi, PhD and Quantum Healing (Revised and Updated): Exploring the Frontiers of Mind/Body Medicine.www.deepakchopra.com

Source: Linked In

How to Speed Up the Expansion of Consciousness – Bentinho Massaro

Published on Oct 24, 2016

Bentinho Massaro is a Spiritual Teacher. In this video he speaks about inner qualities that speed up the progress of the spiritual aspirant towards enlightenment/awakening.

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David Spangler – Buddha at the Gas Pump Interview


Published on Oct 26, 2016

Also see https://batgap.com/david-spangler/

David Spangler has been a teacher of spiritual potentials since 1964. From 1970 to 1973 he was co-director of the Findhorn Foundation Community. He is a Fellow of the Lindisfarne Association. He is a co-founder of the Lorian Association, a spiritual educational foundation, and a director of the Lorian Center for Incarnational Spirituality. His work involves enabling individuals to embody the innate spirituality of their incarnations. He is the author of over 30 books, including Journey Into Fire Apprenticed To Spirit: The Education of a Soul Subtle Worlds: An Explorer’s Field Notes Facing the Future

He writes a free monthly email essay called “David’s Desk”. He also writes a quarterly esoteric journal of his work and explorations with the subtle worlds titled Views from the Borderland. In recent years, this work has brought him into contact with the Sidhe, the “Elven” cousins of Humanity. He describes his experiences in a book Conversations with the Sidhe and through a special card deck—Card Deck of the Sidhe, which he created with Jeremy Berg with inspiration and guidance from their Sidhe contacts. Information about his journal, David’s Desk, online courses, books, and workshops can be found at Lorian.org. David is happily married with four adult children.

12 Signs of the Higher State of Consciousness ~ Frank M. Wanderer PhD


Published on Oct 26, 2016

It has happened to all of us that we came under the spell of a moment some time during our life. A beautiful landscape, a sunset, a beautiful piece of art, the rhythm of music enchanted us. It may even happen that we are just lost in the silence of a peaceful moment. The identification with the forms and shapes loosens a little bit for a short while, and in that instant we may experience an entirely different state of Consciousness. See some sings of this state of the Higher Consciousness.

What does the word ‘Self’ mean in Advaita Vedanta? ~ James Swartz


Published on Oct 25, 2016

What does the term Self mean in Advaita Vedanta?

Adyashanti ~ The Light Of The World, The Nondual Teachings Of Jesus Christ


Published on Oct 24, 2016

Adyashanti ~ The Light Of The World, The Nondual Teachings Of Jesus Christ

Deepak Chopra: Donald Trump “Thinks With His Penis” – CONAN on TBS


Published on Oct 24, 2016

CONAN Highlight: Deepak believes the Republican nominee for president “has the emotional development of a 3-year-old.”

.Deepak Chopra is clearly not a fan of Donald Trump’s aura.

The New Age spiritual leader told Conan O’Brien that the GOP nominee thinks “with his penis” and is “incapable of moving beyond the emotional development of a 3-year-old” on Monday.

“His reptilian brain is on overdrive,” Chopra said. “His energy is blocked.”

Chopra later described Trump as being “incapable of being centered” and as having “no insight, no intuition, no creativity, no vision, no capacity to offer hope, trust, stability or compassion.”

“I see resentment, grievances, fear, hostility, guilt, shame and even depression,” he added, before suggesting that Trump may also have “very poor self-esteem.”

 

More CONAN @ http://teamcoco.com/video

The Miracle of Meditation: Opening Your Life to Peace, Joy, and the Power Within by Ryuho Okawa (Author)


There is more to meditation than simply sitting quietly and emptying our mind. When we look within and practice contemplative meditation, we will be able to connect to a higher world, and receive inspirations and guidance to live a better life. This book introduces various types of meditation, including calming meditation, purposeful meditation, reading meditation, reflective meditation, and meditation to communicate with heaven. Through reading and practicing meditation in this book, we can experience the miracle of meditation, which is to start living a life of peace, happiness, and success. With how-tos and answers to common questions about meditation, this simple but profound book will awaken your soul and encourage you to start living a more mindful, positive, and fulfilled life.


RYUHO OKAWA
is a global visionary, renowned spiritual leader, and best-selling author in Japan with a simple goal: to help people ­and true happiness and create a better world. His deep compassion and sense of responsibility for the happiness of each individual has prompted him to publish over 2000 titles of religious, spiritual, and self-development teachings, covering a broad range of topics including how our thoughts influence reality, the nature of love, and the path to enlightenment. He also writes on the topics of management and economy, as well as the relationship between religion and politics in the global context. To date, Okawa’s books have sold over 100 million copies worldwide and been translated into 28 languages.

Okawa has dedicated himself to improving society and creating a better world. In 1986, Okawa founded Happy Science as a spiritual movement dedicated to bringing greater happiness to humankind by uniting religions and cultures to live in harmony. Happy Science has grown rapidly from its beginnings in Japan to a worldwide organization with over 10 million members. Okawa is compassionately committed to the spiritual growth of others. In addition to writing and publishing books, he continues to give lectures around the world.

The Grand Strategy for Prosperity

In this video, Ryuho Okawa talks about the importance of making efforts and not to rely too much on other people or the government. Every one of us must perservere and to keep making efforts that will gradually make your country prosper. He empowers us to survive through tough times and guides us to choose a path to a more positive future.

Please refer to our official website for more information:
http://ryuho-okawa.com

Mantra Of Avalokiteshvara | Medicine Buddha Mantra

Mantra Of Avalokiteshvara | Medicine Buddha Mantra, Mantra Of Avalokiteshvara, Mantra of Avalokiteshvara Tibetan..
Mantra Of Avalokiteshvara Lyrics:
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Namo Ratna Trayaya,
Namo Arya Jnana
Sagara, Vairochana,
Byuhara Jara Tathagataya,
Arahate, Samyaksam Buddhaya,
Namo Sarwa Tathagate Bhyay,
Arhata Bhyah,
Samyaksam Buddhe Bhyah,
Namo Arya Avalokite
shoraya Bodhisattvaya,
Maha Sattvaya,
Maha Karunikaya,
Tadyata, Om Dara Dara,
Diri Diri, Duru Duru
Itte We, Itte Chale Chale,
Purachale Purachale,
Kusume Kusuma Wa Re,
Ili Milli, Chiti Jvalam, Apanaye Shoha.

When Someone Pulls Your Trigger: How To Stop Reacting Defensively ~ By Shift

You’re rolling along with a smile on your face and joy in your heart and then BAM! Something hits you. Or should that be someone…?

Whether it’s in person, on the phone, via text, or even on Facebook, you never know when someone is about to pull your trigger. It might be what is said or it might be the way it is said, but a certain combination of words has turned your smile into a frown and your joy into anger.

Sound familiar?

The problem is that your reaction comes from within you and is founded upon your past experience, your world view, and your ego. So regardless of whether or not the other person was trying to hurt you, the pain you feel is in your hands.

Luckily, if the problem stems from within, then the solution also lies in you.

But before you can find that solution, you have to do something quite challenging – you have to be aware.

Awareness sounds easy, right? If that were true, the world would contain far less conflict and negative energy than it does.

In fact, the vast majority of us go through life with only the most fleeting glimpses of true awareness. We neglect to stop and reflect upon our thoughts, to see them objectively for what they are, and instead let the world – and the people in it – direct our emotions and control our minds and mouths.

The truth is, however, that when someone sets off your trigger, you have a choice – one that will determine the course of your life in one way or another. So, awareness is all about recognizing the choice in front of you and making it in the way that puts you most at peace.

Do you retreat into yourself and launch a counter-attack, or do you embrace the opportunity to express your feelings and seek reconciliation?

Luckily, there are some steps you can take whenever you feel a defensive reaction bubbling inside of you:

1. Pause for thought.

When you feel like you are being attacked, the immediate response is usually one of retaliation. Instead, just do nothing at first; reign in your desire to react and take a moment to compose yourself.

Whatever you then decide to do, it will not be driven from those initial, often irrational thoughts.

2. Step into their shoes.

The other person may have said something to cause you offense, but try and look at things from their perspective. See through their eyes and from their mind and search for the thoughts and emotions that have led them to say what they have said.

Not agreeing with someone doesn’t mean you can’t comprehend their reasoning, and instead of going on the counteroffensive and attacking them back, if you can go through their logic, you will be better placed to form a non-inflammatory response.

3. Observe your feelings.

Feelings and thoughts are often mistaken for one another or simply lumped together, but they are, in fact, completely distinct elements of your being.

You can be happy because you achieve something, because you are with loved ones, or simply because it is a beautiful day. The same feeling occurs, but coming from different sources.

Thus, whatever is going on in your head, try to look deeper and really feel the feelings inside. Let go of all the thoughts that might be clouding your mind and just sit and breathe for 10 seconds. By separating and releasing the narrative you’ve created, you are just left with the feelings, and you should find that these subside once they are no longer receiving energy from your thoughts.

4. Know that it’s them, not you.

Whatever has been said or done by the other person, remember that it came from them and because of their world view. They have experienced a completely different life to you and their behavior comes about because of their unique history.

This is not to say that you should absolve them of any responsibility – we are all responsible to life – but you can take comfort in the fact that their attack on you was born in their psyche and it does not have to find a home in yours.

Remember: it’s their issue, not yours.

5. Let the heart drive when responding.

In those circumstances where a response is called for – and bear in mind that sometimes no response is the right response – be sure to come at it from a place of love.

Your mind may create the words and action, but it should be driven by the heart. When you do this, it helps to disarm the other person and pacify the situation at hand.

If you want to receive love, you first have to give it; taking this approach at those times when you’d normally show anger is a sure-fire way to reach a place of peace within yourself.

A defensive reaction to any given situation is one that will rarely result the way you’d have liked. Instead, fight the urge to engage in conflict and use your awareness of yourself, the other person, and the choice at hand to take the most harmonious path available.

This article has been republished from A Conscious Rethink

Back to Sanity: The Power of Empathy; Healing Conflict through Connection by Steve Taylor


In the UK, there has been a lot of publicity lately for the idea of “restorative justice.”
As part of this process, offenders are brought face to face with the victims of their crimes, to hear how they have suffered as a result of them. The aim of restorative justice is healing, both for victim and offender. The victim transcends their rage with some understanding and forgiveness towards the offender, and the offender empathises with the victim, becoming aware of the real meaning of their crimes. This process changes lives. Victims feel free of the weight of hatred and are able to move on; offenders have a wider sense of perspective, and are less likely to re-offend. Sometimes offenders don’t meet their specific victims, but just the victims of similar crimes. But this still leads to a new awareness, and new patterns of behaviour.

For me, this highlights the enormous significance of empathy. To a large extent, all human brutality — all oppression, cruelty and most crime — is the result of a lack of empathy. It’s a lack of empathy which makes someone capable of attacking, robbing, raping or oppressing another human being. It’s a lack of empathy for another tribe or country which makes warfare and conflict possible. It’s a lack of empathy towards other ethnic groups, social classes or castes what makes oppression and inequality possible.

What is Empathy?

Empathy is the ability to “feel with” another person, to identify with them and sense what they’re experiencing. It’s sometimes seen as the ability to “read” other people’s emotions, or the ability to imagine what they’re feeling, by “putting yourself in their shoes.” In other words, empathy is seen as a cognitive ability, along the same lines as the ability to imagine future scenarios or to solve problems based on previous experience. But in my view, empathy is more than this. It’s the ability to make a psychic and emotional connection with another person, to actually enter into their mind-space. When we experience real empathy or compassion, in a sense, our identity actually merges with another person’s — your “self-boundary” melts away and the separateness between you and the other person fades.

Our strongly developed sense of individuality — being a personal self, or ego — can make it difficult for us to experience this state of connection. The ego walls us off from other people, particularly those belonging to other groups: the other gender (in the case of female oppression), other tribes, nations, races or classes. It encloses us in a narrow world of our own thoughts and desires, making us so self-absorbed that it’s difficult for us to experience the world from other people’s perspective. Other people become truly “other” to us. And this makes it possible for us to inflict suffering on them, simply because we can’t sense the pain we’re causing them. We can’t feel with them enough to sense their suffering.

On the other hand, if you identify with another person, if you have a psychic and emotional connection with them, then it’s impossible to treat them brutally. You recoil from their experience of suffering in the same way that you recoil from your own suffering. In fact, you feel a strong desire to relieve their suffering and aid their development. But if you can’t identify with them, then there’s no limit to the amount of suffering you can inflict. You can’t sense their pain, so there’s nothing to stop you causing it.

As Restorative Justice shows, empathy can be learned to some degree. When people are brought together in a neutral context, with an open, trusting attitude, empathy naturally establishes itself. Distinctions of ethnicity, religion and other superficial identity badges begin to fade away, as does the sense of grievance and rage derived from past events.

And it’s this bond which is surely our true nature. Empathy shows that the concept of separateness is an illusion. Empathy is simply the experience of our true connectedness, the exchange of feeling through the channel of shared consciousness which unites not just all human beings, but all living and non-living things. The wider empathy stretches from victims to offenders, from one ethnic group to another, from nation to nation and religion to religion, the less brutal and more harmonious the world will become.

Source: Super Consciousness

Adyashanti – Welcoming Transformation


Adyashanti explores the inherent unsatisfactoriness of life that is woven into the fabric of human existence, and how the fierceness and gracefulness of life are intertwined. Adyashanti points to how our egoic operating system is in a push-pull relationship with life, and points out that our ego can never be fully satisfied. When the trap of the ego harnesses your attention, by stopping for a moment, you are able to realize that you have a choice as to where you place your attention.

By tapping into a deep well of wisdom and by listening to something deeper than the reactive mind, the possibilities before you are endless. A new perspective opens up before you—to see suffering as a motivator to relieve suffering, rather than to run away from it. Suffering no longer has to carry a heavy weight over you—it can birth a transformation within you and lift you up into a non-suffering state of being.

Adyashanti explores the unlimited options available to you in any given situation and points out that the key is to deeply listen to something beyond the reactive mind. When you do this, a calmness settles into being. This provokes the question: What will your relationship with life be?

Excerpted from “Fierce Grace”:

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